My First Romance

The purpose of this blog is not to discredit anyone including myself or my wife. Sometime destiny meets and we as men are caught in high maintenance relationship. Perhaps through this blog, my stories could help and encourage those who struggle in their relationship. Or perhaps dealing with someone who's high maintenance.

As I'm writing this blog, I hope I also learn and evaluate things that are better for me and our relationship. There are times of struggles and hardships... I hope if you happen to be people of faith, you could bring us to a prayer. Or perhaps feel free to drop some encouraging comments.

Most guys are NOT born player, fluent in speaking with girls, etc. I grew up in a very culturally strict asian family where family value is almost everything. . I have to keep certain manners to speak with woman , girl, elder, and so on... there are rules of manners that I have to follow. I have certain interest with science and Music so... yeah to summarize I'm somewhat a nerd, working in IT industry. ...
I started to learn how to socizalize in my college years after taking some leadership roles that boost up my confidence on people. Had many friends, but because of my principle and faith, I don't date unless if I know if they're worth to be my wife. Of course at that time, I wasn't thinking about marrying until recent years.

After moving to a new place, I have to leave my social circle and start afresh. My coworkers, parents n ppl around me... think that it's time for me to date or.. start thinking of marriage. Then without my knowledge my coworker subscribed me through a dating website. It 's through the dating website, I met someone that later be my wife.

I was sceptical about dating website to begin with. Maybe because of pride, or maybe because I thought I could find someone within my social circle. But obviously, my career path made me not having much time to socialize and thus.. I thought it might be a good idea to get to know someone from the website.

I got several emails.. met some of them. And yeah.. not to my surprise ... some of them has nasty history nor if I find them untrue to what their stated profile. I almost gave up on the site until .. somebody emailed me asking if I'm from a certain country.. because of my name.
I said sure... .. she also happened to be someone from my hometown as well. The only drawback is that she lives 2000 miles away from me.

So we started with emailing each other... then MSN chat.. then several phone calls. Igot attracted to her personality and character. We had daily phone conversation for hours and hours until morning.
That's how I started my first romance with my wife.